How to Fix a Broken Heart

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How to Fix a Broken Heart by Guy Winch is a compassionate and scientifically grounded guide to healing emotional pain, particularly the kind caused by heartbreak—whether from the end of a romantic relationship or the loss of a beloved pet. Winch, a psychologist, argues that heartbreak should be treated like a real injury because it deeply affects both our minds and our bodies. It impacts sleep, weakens our immune system, disrupts brain function, and causes obsessive thinking—yet society often dismisses it as something we should simply “get over.” Winch explains that heartbreak activates the same parts of the brain associated with addiction. That’s why we feel cravings to reconnect with the person we lost or replay memories over and over again. He emphasizes that healing isn’t passive—it requires intentional, active effort. One of the most harmful things we do during heartbreak, he says, is idealizing the person or relationship, which keeps us emotionally stuck. To combat this, he encourages readers to make a list of all the negative traits and moments in the relationship and revisit it when tempted to fantasize. Another key aspect of healing is to fill the emotional voids left behind. Often, the person we lost was tied to parts of our identity, routines, social life, or future dreams. Winch advises us to identify exactly what was lost and find new ways to replace those roles or routines—whether it’s through friendships, new habits, or rediscovering passions we neglected. Importantly, Winch also challenges the societal tendency to downplay heartbreak, especially compared to physical pain. He argues that emotional pain deserves the same care and attention, and that it’s okay to seek support, grieve fully, and take time to heal. In the end, How to Fix a Broken Heart offers a powerful reminder: you are not weak for feeling broken. With self-compassion, structured mental strategies, and time, recovery is not only possible—it’s fully within your control. The book offers both emotional validation and practical tools to help you move from suffering to strength, and from heartbreak to healing.